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Couples Therapy couples therapy
couples THERAPY IN CALIFORNIA
Couples therapy is a relational process that helps uncover the emotional and interactional patterns operating outside of awareness—patterns that shape how you and your partner respond to one another, especially during moments of stress or disconnection. As these patterns become clearer, new possibilities for understanding, closeness, and change can emerge.
Rather than focusing on blame or quick fixes, we slow things down and explore what’s happening between you, so you can move toward a relationship that feels more intentional, connected, and aligned with what you both want.
Couples in Distress
Some couples come to therapy feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure if their relationship can improve. You may be experiencing frequent conflict, emotional distance, loss of trust, or a sense that you’re talking past each other no matter how hard you try.
Common experiences include:
Repeating the same arguments without resolution
Feeling misunderstood, unheard, or emotionally unsafe
Cycles of pursuing and withdrawing
Lingering resentment, hurt, or disconnection
Fear that things may not change
In relational couples therapy, we work to bring these automatic patterns into awareness—especially how each partner protects themselves when the relationship feels threatened. As these patterns become visible, couples often experience relief, clarity, and the possibility of reconnecting in new ways.
Growth-Oriented Couples
Other couples seek therapy not because something is “wrong,” but because they want to strengthen their relationship, deepen connection, or navigate change more intentionally. You may be functioning well and still sense there’s more available—more understanding, intimacy, or alignment.
Growth-oriented couples often come to therapy to:
Improve communication and emotional attunement
Deepen intimacy and connection
Navigate transitions (parenthood, career changes, aging, identity shifts)
Strengthen trust and collaboration
Become more aware of patterns before they become problems
Relational couples therapy offers a space to explore these dynamics proactively—supporting a relationship that continues to grow, adapt, and feel alive over time.
How Relational Couples Therapy Supports Change
When relational patterns remain outside of awareness, they can quietly shape how couples connect, argue, and repair—often leading to frustration or emotional distance. Couples therapy brings these patterns into awareness within the safety of the therapeutic relationship, allowing new experiences of connection, understanding, and choice to take root.
Over time, this work supports clearer communication, increased emotional safety, and a relationship that feels more resilient and mutually supportive.
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I offer relational couples therapy for both distressed and growth-oriented couples, focused on uncovering unseen emotional and interactional patterns—so connection, understanding, and meaningful change become possible